My family dynamic, is not what would call normal. A family of 6 divided into 3 apiece. My Mother raised myself and my brother Karl and my father raised my sister Tanya and the eldest of the children Darren. When thinking about this post, I had to think to myself, how much respect do I have for my parents, whilst at the same time, trying to keep it objective. My father has never been an active presence In my life, although he was always around, not that it makes much difference. My two eldest siblings, who were in effect raised by him, have a lot more respect for him than I would. My Mother who raised me, despite our family issues, lack of trust being one, although I don’t disrespect her or my father. I don’t have much respect for some of the choices they make sometimes. I know I certaintly have shown a lack of respect for both, over the years.
But if it came to who I respected more, I would have to say my Mother, as I believe she tried a lot harder than my father, raised us, as best she could at the time. Also I identify more with her struggles as a parent and as a person. Although we have a relationship that is often rife with conflict. Answering this question, I respect my Mother a lot compared to how I respect my father.
Families can show a total lack of respect to each other at times, but I think most family units, when disrespected from an external source, well that can often force a family to close rank and defend each other without question. I can say with some degree of certainty, that my family operates like this.